Living a happy life should be simple, right? For me at least this has been extremely difficult. Among other things that I strive for, happiness doesn’t come easy to me. I am working toward making it a more simple concept in my life, but it is taking some time. I do have to say though… I have been happier now that I have been in a long time. I think that is because I have changed a lot in my life to make it more into how I want to live. As hard as it may be, letting go of the toxins in your life will benefit you because it will force you to move forward and be more happy in the future.
It is not selfish to make yourself happy. Your happiness always comes before anyone elses. Why should you sacrifice your happiness just to make someone else happy? It is simple- you don’t. If you are happy with yourself and with your life, then anyone else who is in it will be uplifted by you and your positive attitude. When you are happy and satisfied with the unknown of life, then you are able to give so much more to others. Happiness isn’t about striving for it, but the pursuit of meaning- this is what will lead you to being content in the life that you live.
I went to a baseball game recently and experienced a couple fighting. They were unfortunately sitting right next to me. The boyfriend was yelling at his girlfriend telling her how useless she was, grabbed her phone aggressively from her hand, and continued to put her down even more. I was so incredibly shocked at how this girl was being treated, and it was all because she couldn’t find her electronic tickets for another game they were going to attend. I just wanted to say, “You deserve more and to be happy”. It is so shocking what and how they allow others to treat them.
Now, I sadly have experienced behavior like this before. I have been screamed at. Actually, I have been verbally, emotionally, physically, and sexually abused before. It really sucks to be treated that way… it is even worse when you finally have the realization that it should never happen to anyone. Any of it. I went through a lot to get to where I am today where I won’t allow people to treat me that way anymore. About a year and a half ago I was starting to see someone who tried telling me that I couldn’t talk to or hang out with any of my guy friends. Maybe a few years ago I would have just accepted it and cut those friends out of my life, but now? Absolutely not. I fought back and stood my ground, and you know what? It didn’t work out between us and that was more than fine. I will never allow anyone in my life to tell me who I can, and who I can’t be friends with. I have learned how strong I actually am for all of the unfortunate things that I have had to go through in my life. Yes, there are definitely worse things that can happen to people, but for me… being sexually and physically abused has to have been the worst when it comes to past relationships.
Focus your energy on the positive things in your life; For me that includes exercise, eating healthy, maintaining my friendships with some of my favorite people, and making sure that I have gratitude for what and who is in my life. If you aren’t happy with something, CHANGE IT!!
Some helpful tips to having a happier life:
– Don’t push your happiness down your priority list
– Incorporate happiness into your every day life and don’t save it for “special occasions”
– Balance safety and stability
– Find a sense of purpose and meaning
Some things that you can do to change from negative to positive:
– Celebrate victories in your life, no matter how little
– Find a work-life balance
– Accept imperfection
– Do what you love
– Do something for someone else daily without any expectations in return
– Forgive and forget: Don’t hold grudges
– Be yourself 🙂
Do what makes you happy.
Do something for yourself on a daily basis.
Don’t forget about YOU!
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