I think part of your journey in life is to give and seek advice. Over the years, I have been given a lot of advice on various things in my life- relationships, friendships, school, career pat, etc. I have given advice too, but only when asked. I do not like to give advice to people because everyone lives their own life and has to deal with the outcome of their own decisions. I do have to say, I am WAY better at giving advice than taking it. I don’t like to be told what to do- who does!? I also have found myself in situations where, if I only took my own advice, I would have been way better off. Oh well! You live and you learn. ( Insert shrug emoji 😉 )
One of my best friends and I were having a conversation with their dad, and he said, “The best thing you can do is get uncomfortable.” My gosh is this true. I found that when I leave my comfort zone, amazing things happen. I have met new friends, have had new experiences I have had some amazing relationships in my life because of this advice.
I picked up and left my life where I grew up when I was 21 years old and it was the absolute best decision I have ever made. I do miss my family and close friends who are still back there, but my life has improved so much. I have learned how to be on my own, and have gotten closer to achieving being happy with the life I have made where I currently reside. Because of that move, I have made some incredible friends, met some seriously interesting people, and learned to live a different lifestyle than what I knew growing up. I am grateful for what my life is right now. Yes, there are always things that I wish were different, or that I could change… but I am more content than I have been in a while. Just go for it and you could surprise yourself with how much you can accomplish, learn, and be happy. Focus on yourself and your own happiness expand on how you look at yourself:
-learn what makes you happy
-just because something has failed before, doesn’t mean that you will continue to in the present or future
If you see something negative, the first step is to acknowledge it. The next is to take a step to change. I try on a daily basis to find positive things, but I definitely still have days where I find this to be super impossible.
Another piece of advice I came across was posted by Julianne Hough, who I absolutely adore- she does a lot of good and shines a lot of brightness in dark times. She posted, “It starts with acceptance.” I never thought of living life this way, but honestly it makes sense. You need to accept yourself as you are, and if you want to change, then you need to put in the effort to do so. You also need to accept others as they are. I have learned the hard way, and multiple times, that you can’t ever change someone who is not willing or want to change. This doesn’t make them a bad person, but you need to accept it and choose how these people will remain in your life, if you choose that option.
I love following inspirational people on social media, or seeing someone post a great quote, or something that someone says from their own heart. People are more alike than you think and can relate to others situations. This is where I find the best inspiration to feel more uplifted and happy in the more unhappy times. You can feel connected to others by sharing what you are going through.
There have been many people who have reached out to me to tell me that they are going through similar situations or emotions. I am grateful for this, it reminds me that I am not alone in my anxiety, and it starts conversations on learning how to cope in different ways.
Accept yourself so that others can accept you for who you are.
Don’t let the negatives push you away from being happy and extraordinary.